VALIDITY

Its necessary, but more from inside and almost never from the outside. Ironically we do the opposite.

In general, it is a criteria to measure the quality of any information. It is indicative of its logical and factual soundness.
Eg. “You make a valid point/argument.” or “There is no proof that validates your stories” (basically means that you think the person is lying).

In case of statistics and research, validity is understood as the extent to which the results or findings correspond to the actual reality.

To think of why this concept has made it to my choice of word for this week, it is because of something that I caught myself doing.
I willingly went ahead and undid my hour long effort because someone’s opinion of the outcome didn’t seem very positive towards it, even though I was convince that it was fairly good for the occasion.
I’m not saying that valuing and respecting someone’s opinion is wrong. But make sure its someone else’s opinion, not necessarily your reality!

Have you ever felt like you have used validation as a tool to measure your affection towards someone, or someone has used it for you? I know I have allowed people’s validation drive me from one task to the next.
It doesn’t confirm their love for me, but it sure makes me distant from who I am. And the worst part, when you pay attention to someone post validation, its never a long term result or unconditional love. It becomes a cycle- there is constant need to fit into the box or match a certain expectation.

The day I caught myself doing this and realised that their approval was not always bringing me happiness I decided to try and be more conscious of this and evaluate my actions.
After all, Life is too short to please everyone while making yourself uncomfortable and disconnected!

PROCRASTINATION

This one is special. It is an act that I often rely on. I’m not sure where it stands on the B&W scale, but it has helped me sometimes.

This one is special.

It is an act that I heavily rely on; is it a good thing, I’m not sure.

PROCRASTINATION

‘the action of delaying or postponing something’

it is a habitual and/or intentional delay of tasks despite its side-effects…

This means, to ignore doing things until the last minute or just avoiding them altogether. The idea of putting away a to-do list until the very last minute, giving task the chance to move from important to urgent before executing them.

Why is this word important?

Well, I procrastinated on writing the weekly post. I had known from a while that the fourth week of the current month was going to be tightly packed and also the fact that I am expected to give WW4.

And instead of attending to this important task when I had the time, I let it sit until the last minute aka I procrastinated. And here I am, now writing it when its developed a sense of urgency, instead of just importance.

This word is important to me because I’m acknowledging a behavioral pattern that I have and trying to address it. For me, the act of admitting to ones fault is the first sign of growth (In my head I’m hearing each reader say “More power to you!”… that’s me hoping)

While it seems all bad because I tend to sometimes under-perform in comparison to my potential. I miss out on time that could be used to improve the presentation and save me some last minute sprints. But, I’ve realized that procrastinating has its own small benefits. I don’t spend too much time planning the smaller things and don’t get the chance to sweat them either. It makes me a fast thinker who usually opts creativity to deal with the time deficit. It makes me live in the moment.

Guess then, I just need to learn to segregate tasks on which I can and cannot procrastinate!

Do you procrastinate as well?

Please do share your experiences and hacks of dealing with it.

Bonus: There are people who identify themselves as PROCAFFEINATORS.

These are the people who cannot get started with their day, work or life without first having their caffeine fix. Its a dependence of sorts.

PS: WW= Weekly Word

ATTITUDE

it is an energy neutral term and yet is most commonly thought/ used in a negative context

This week’s word is an energy neutral term and yet is most commonly thought and used in a negative context.

“ATTITUDE”

a point of view, vantage point, frame of mind or perspective of an individual or a group, towards another individual, thing or situation

A predisposition or a tendency to respond positively or negatively towards a certain idea, object, person, or situation. Attitude influences an individual’s choice of action, and responses to challenges, incentives, and rewards.

(as defined on BusinessDictionary)

The word attitude has always interested me, just the way a hot pan interests a child who has been specifically told not to touch it.

Look at the definition and meaning of this word people! Not once does any definition say that it’s about the unacceptable or negative behaviours or situations. And yet how often is it said “You have attitude”, “You better watch that attitude of yours”, “I don’t like him, he has an attitude” and on and on…

If Antoine de Saint-Exupery’s words about attitude-

“The meaning of things lies not in the things themselves, but in our attitude towards them”

are to be believed, then our attitude towards attitude is what needs our attention.

I’m not sure what started it, but the common connotation and usage of the word is heavily negative, even though it is something that helps distinguish one from another. Its as unique as personality.

Come to think of it, it feels like an elaborate sadistic scheme. Like one fine boring morning someone decided to make a list of words such as breasts, ATTITUDE, sensuality, menstruation, depression, etc. and met up with a bunch of buddies. He shared the list with them along with his plan- “I’m going to create a certain amount of discomfort around these words and lets see if it goes viral”. And it did! *face palm* *eyes rolling into my head*

The taboo on it is so strong that when we intend to use the word ‘attitude’ with a positive connotation we tend to used the word positive or a synonym of it to explain our context (good, bright, growth oriented, etc…).

Am I getting to any point with it?

NO

Well this is just my rant about a phenomenon that I refuse to understand.

ENVIRONMENT

This week I have a word that is used by all of us in varied contexts, tongues and tones. We have used it to reason our way through situations, and we have made it the cause or the consequence based on our requirements. That makes it a term worth discussing and talking about.

ENVIRONMENT
-the surroundings in which you live/work, and the way it impacts and influences your being-

Oh I know, it is a rather subjective term that has a volatile definition, changing composition from time to time, people to people, setting to setting…
But bare with me a moment longer… then, well!
You can judge this choice of word all you want.

So here is what I picked up from a book on Marketing Management. It says that all products have two concentric tiers of fundamental factors that form its market. The first circle has the Micro Environment while the next is the Macro Environment.
And VOILA! That was enough to have my wandering mind day-dreaming again.

Following the same theme, I realised that as humans we too have a Micro and Macro Environment that effects us as individuals and as members of the society and the world at large.
Our Micro Environment is made up of factors immediately surrounding us- family, friends, religion, culture, school/ university/ work place.
The Macro Environment is made up of factors bigger that us and our vicinity- economy, politics, technology, world climate.

Based on this logic and the definition of the word ‘environment’, everything and anything that happens around me and around the world can have a direct or indirect impact on me, as an individual.

And just like that the world has become a small place. Encompassed within the two concentric circles of my own environment!